If you do a quick search on relationship advice you will come across an abundance of information on how the technology, a ubiquitous part of our lives, can be detrimental to our relationships. While it’s true that spending too much time glued to your smartphone and not enough time paying attention to your partner can lead to problems, there are also some valid ways in which technology can be useful in a healthy relationship.
When used appropriately, technology can help you improve communication with your partner, establish new ways to bond with each other, and keep yourselves feeling connected to one another.
Listen to Music – Save Your Relationship
A recent study sponsored by Apple and Sonos titled “Music Makes it Home” shows that couples who listen to music out loud together experience 66% more intimacy when music is a part of their daily lives over couples for whom this is not the case.
While it’s fair to be suspicious of a study sponsored by companies who have something to gain by increased downloads, it should be noted that the study was overseen by cognitive psychologist and neuroscientist Daniel J. Levitin who authored the book This is Your Brain on Music: The Science of Human Obsession (2006).
The science suggests that listening to music causes the brain to release oxytocin, which is the same neurochemical released by the brain when we are falling in love or having sex. Oxytocin is the ultimate pleasure chemical so experiencing this sensation with your partner is going to help you feel connected to and good about each other. So pull out your smartphone to search for and download music together.
A Healthy Relationship Uses Technology Wisely
There are simple things that you can use modern technology for to keep your healthy relationship on the right track or to help save your relationship if you feel like it’s slipping away from you. Small, simple texts can have a really big impact. Staying connected with your partner throughout the day shows them that no matter how busy you are, they are never far from your mind. A simple “I love you” or “hope you’re having a great day” sent via text shows your partner that you care and keeps you connected to each other.
If you come across an article of interest while getting your daily dose of news or perusing your social media accounts, use the technology provided to share that article via email or preferred sm platform with your special someone. It shows that you care enough to take the time (a few seconds really) to share the things that you find interesting and that you are interested in their opinion on the subject.
Gift Giving Using Technology
Technology can be used to send you partner small gifts once in a while. It doesn’t have to be Valentine ’s Day to send flowers. Sometimes, it’s better when it’s not. The technology on your smartphone makes it very easy for you to take a few moments to look up a local florist and have a small bouquet sent unexpectedly to your loved one. The message will be loud and clear. She means a lot to you and you want her to know it. Or use the same technology to book a reservation at her favorite restaurant and surprise her with a dinner out.
Whether you use technology to listen to music together, look up a recipe to try at home together, or to send a little love note, technology definitely has it’s place in a healthy modern day relationship, and helps you stay connected to each other.