There was always something that you didn’t like about your future wife, and you knew what it was the moment you guys met. It may have been the way she laughed or the way her heels clicked on the pavement as you walked together. You were so into the relationship, you looked past the small things because they out weighed the good things you saw in your partner. Many mates find themselves often losing interest in their partner, and these bad traits become more amplified.
Sometimes something this simple can lead to an affair.
Some people may be a bit more old-school where they firmly believe in staying devoted to that one partner. If one can be forgiving and understanding, stepping out on your marriage may rekindle lost fire in your relationship and bring about a renewed marriage.
Cheating with Porn
Many cases where an affair might be on the horizon involve two lovers who have become sexually suppressed; caught in those routine sexual encounters that feel more like obligations than fun romps. When the sexual intensity lowers, people stray to online and digital video porn. You sneak off into that private place and get right to work, looking up different varieties and categories to heighten the excitement.
At some point, pornography could be an addiction, but it’s important to not let it get that far. Otherwise, try to watch pornography to learn more sexual tricks and treats in order to increase your repertoire. You’ll both get the release you want watching porn while also treating your partner to something new, hopefully rekindling your sexual spark.
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
When you have an affair, it can be nice to experience that new relationship feeling all over again. You aren’t serious, the sex is the main focal point, and there’s no true committment – remind you of your first few months with your current spouse?
But eventually, you’ll also remember why you moved from this stage of a relationship into the more committed and serious stage with your wife. While it’s fun to have sex with a stranger or outside party, you’ll also realize what makes your partner worthwhile.
Have you ever considered an open relationship or swinging? Cheating is something that causes a lot of hurt feelings and emotional scars – while it can help some, it can also be hurtful, especially when you’re caught.
Instead, talk to your spouse about having an open relationship. This gives her the opportunity to also participate in “cheating” – though agreed upon – which can help you both immensely. If you’re interested in sex with others, consider a threesome or swinging. She might be into it!
Work it Out
Let’s say you get caught cheating. Things get ugly, she’s hurt. Usually this means you’re heading to a seperation and a divorce – but not all the time.
Many couples report that having an affair and being caught has made their relationship stronger. When you’re caught cheating, it’s necessary to prove your love and trust again. If you stay together, take this as a chance to prove your love to your spouse.
Building this trust can give you a renewed interest in each other. You’ll be able to see the good in each other, and hopefully realize why you committed to your wife in the first place.