The time has come to introduce your friends to the girl you’ve either been pining about all month long or avoiding the conversation of in fear of jinxing it or sounding mushy and “whipped.” The truth is, whether you have talked your buddy’s ear off about this girl or totally avoided her name, when it comes to your bros, having her meet them and having them meet her has probably already become a bigger deal than anyone expected.
So how do you go about this? Sure, you could nonchalantly have her meet up with you and the boys at the bar- if you only think of her as a friend, and if that’s the case be prepared for your single buds to move on in. Then, there’s always having the boys “stop by” your date but along with that being tacky, it is also likely to result in “date night” becoming “guys’ night” while she either mingles well or sits quietly with her drink texting a friend. As we can see, these options are “hit or miss” with a much stronger emphasis on “miss.”
The Steps to Take
First, let’s realize that she will probably be a little nervous; whether she shows it or not. The approval of a man’s friends can mean as much to the woman as it does to the man. To the man, approval of the friends is like the approval of a band of brothers. If his buddies like his girl it’s a big relief for him- no double life of having to hide one relationship from the other. His buddies might even be thinking “I hope she has hot friends,” or “I hope we don’t lose him now.”
For women, having his friends approve of her matters, too. Along with being included in his life and having him that much more certain of his choice with her, when trouble in paradise hits and a guy goes to blow off some steam with his buddies he will face one of two scenarios:
Buddies approve: “She is a great girl, don’t let this one go, that’s stupid man, just call her.”
Buddies disapprove: “Bro, forget about her, dump her, I could hook you up with girls that are way hotter.”
Now that we have addressed the possibility of all parties ranging from slightly nervous to an emotional rollercoaster, make sure that if she is nervous, you reassure her that everyone will love her (no matter how many times you have to say it). One way to alleviate nerves for everyone is to have your girl meet one of your friends beforehand, that way she feels more secure when meeting the rest of the group.
Do your friends have girlfriends or wives that you get along with? If so, a casual meeting for an after-work drink could be the perfect way to initiate your new girl into meeting your friends. If you have any group events coming up- anywhere from a barbecue to someone’s kid’s birthday- make sure to use this opportunity to invite your new girl.
Now, she already knows someone in the group so when you say “Oh so and so will be there,” it’s safer ground for her and it will take the pressure off since she already has met some part of the group. No events coming up? Then the casual drinks set the stage for you and your friend to plan a casual day with your friends and new girlfriend. Just make sure that she is there as a guest; not the main attraction.