Going After What You Want
You may not have experienced the moment yourself, but it is possible to pick up a girl in a bar safely and get laid by the end of the night. Let’s explore the three simple steps for flirting with the right edge.
Step 1: Keep confident.
Step number 1, don’t just attack your potential buyer. Though they are truly interested in the goods, you have to approach them with anything other than the cliches of opening punch lines and tuck away the obvious banter that oozes and reeks of insecurity. In other words: self-confidence, as funny and overrated as it may sound, is key!
Self-confidence goes a long way – haven’t you ever noticed a good looking guy with a not so perfect girl or vice versa? The “Shrek” type with the “Princess Fiona” together? Why does this inexplicable phenomenon happen, anyways? It might just be a little thing called a great personality. Believe it or not, you have the goods. You just need to know how to use them!
A simple smile and your laughter can attract a very stale crowd at a bar, not everyone has the right words to say at the right precise moment. Sometimes crowds, as “crowded” as they may seem at times, become like still waters. That is your opportunity to dive deep and make a subtle charming wave.
Step 2: Release the beast.
That’ right – unleash your “inner beast”. What exactly does your “inner beast” entail? Those good vibes. After you’ve got the girl’s attention, let the good times roll.
For example, an average guy walks up to the bar with a group of good-looking women gathered and chit-chatting about work. In reality, they’re eyeing the room for a good looking guy to flirt with and hopefully at least get his contact info.
Picture this similar scenario: we take that same guy and place him with a group of his own rather than just approaching the women cold turkey and making a fool out of himself. The average looking guy has a group of his own, laughing and talking about sports or TV, while also making eye contact with those around him.
Then and only then can he either be approached or do the approaching. After this, continue the same harmonious vibes and filter out the awkward pauses and god awful silences. Your “inner beast” is unique and only can come from your authenticity. People want someone who’s fresh and original, not a bootleg version of someone else. Keep in mind that ladies want the real deal – think about it in terms of retail. A woman wants the designer bag, not the knock off with discoloration or extra details. The same concept applies to your “inner beast.”
Step 3: Make a move and seal the deal!
Perhaps not that same night, but another night can ensure a hot pleasurable night of intense heat – but let’s try and aim for the same night! So far, you are going beyond the call of duty to ease your way into her arms. Now, it’s time to whisper a compliment softly in her ear; something along the lines of “I can’t wait to kiss you”. If you opt for a more subtle approach, slide your hand on her lap and make long-lasting eye contact with a pinch of a half-smile. Let them know that they are the object of your affection.
Last but not least, pace yourself when in the arms of your chosen mate. Even if you’re only looking for a quicky, it’s necessary to make the moment last. The thrill of the chase builds tension and makes all your hard work worth it in the end.