Where do I begin with this topic here? Dating mistakes men make on the first date. Let’s set scene (because visuals make everything interesting). You’re sitting in a dimly lit restaurant with this woman who is insanely hot, her body is perfect to your liking and has a smile that dazzles. She’s looking at you, waiting for you to start the conversation and your first question is “so do you like anal?” Congratulations. She’s leaving.
The perfect date is a far-fetched fantasy but if you ask anyone they have this ridiculous answer like “a walk on the beach or a picnic in Times Square”. You don’t live near a beach and you’re not in New York so those fantasies are impossible so don’t put that kind of unfair pressure on yourself. Women ask for the fantasy and you can create that without all the gimmicks. If you avoid these mistakes men make on the first date, you will definitely find yourself on a second.
Women love when you pay attention to them. If you have a beautiful woman sitting in front of you, then tell her. If you notice she is shivering, offer your coat to her because most women are paying attention to you and your actions. If you show her you are paying attention, she will be flattered and notice she is on a date with a gentleman.
Don’t Get Wasted
It’s the first date, it is perfectly fine to have a drink but if you are throwing back tequila shots like you are at your fraternity’s homecoming party she will be immediately turned off. As I told you before, women are paying attention to your actions and if she sees you getting hammered too many thoughts will start to run through her head and none of them will benefit you. You don’t want her thinking you are an alcoholic or that you are just getting drunk to take her back home for a one night stand.
Engage in Conversation
Yes we all know women love to talk, so much so that you can barely get a word in sometimes. But it’s the first date, you don’t know anything about her and she doesn’t know anything about you. Ask questions, find out your interests, similarities and differences. There’s nothing more uncomfortable than sitting across the table from an adult who cannot engage in conversation. Don’t just sit there undressing her, actually talk to her and then maybe you will get to undress her.
Save the Sex Talk
You want to get in her pants, we know but save the sex talk for another time. This is the first date and I must reiterate women are paying attention to your actions and what you say! If you mention, you enjoy plowing strangers in your King size bed as a hobby she is going to run with her take out plate in her hand. Sex talk can spice up the date because it is interesting to find out what a new potential partner likes or doesn’t like but stash that conversation to the side for now, unless she brings it up then hey I would follow up with that.
Remember You’re Being Judged!
You want to put your best foot forward on the first date because you are being judged like a contestant in the hottest guy in America contest. She’s listening and screening everything you say and do so if you want to see this girl again, show her your best side, wipe the mustard off your mouth and put in the effort. It will work every time.