So you’ve been chatting with a woman online for a while, and you really want to meet up somewhere. You’d love to get to see her in person and find out if you really click as well as you seem to over the Internet, and maybe even get a little something more out of your date. But how do you approach the subject of meeting up? It’s hard enough to know how to ask a woman out in person where you can at least read her body language, but it’s even more difficult to know when the time is right online.
Sometimes you need to have patience.
We’ve all heard the “take it slow” speech before when it comes to dating. If you’re really interested in asking her out, rushing things usually isn’t the way to go. It’s important to note that your definition of “too soon” is probably different than hers. A lot of guys just jump right in and ask women out after their first conversation. That’s the perfect way to drive a woman away from you, so play your cards right and be patient. Women generally like to get to know someone pretty well before they meet up in person, especially in a one-on-one situation. If you’re interested in seeing someone long term, it could take weeks of chatting before she’s comfortable going out on a date alone with you.
Other times, sooner is better.
Now, patience may be the key to success if you’re looking for long-term love, but what about just getting laid? This is where you can (and should) move things along a lot faster. Depending on what platform you’re using to chat with women, you should know what they’re there for. If you’re on an app like Tinder, you know that it’s generally a tool people are using to hook up. The mistake the most guys make is trying to invite a woman on a date after one conversation, when you should really take at least a couple days. It seems like a bother, but it will really help you stand out from all the other guys grasping at straws online.
How you should ask her out.
Be polite, and be prepared for rejection. Just because you talked to a woman doesn’t mean that she will want to meet up with you right away, or at all, so it’s best to talk to several at once and just cycle through until you find someone who DOES want to meet up. Ask her out somewhere public, where she won’t feel unsafe. If she says no, move on to the next girl, don’t stick around and harass or insult her. All you would be doing is setting yourself up to earn a bad rep and lose out on chances with other women in the area.